Thursday, October 21, 2010

Caden's Turn!!

I don't even know where to start with this little maniac. Caden just turned 2 this past week, but he is more like a 9 month old baby. He can sit by himself, but cannot walk, crawl (can do some kind of scoot thing), hold a cup, or really can't do much of anything, but boy is he CUTE!!!! He was sick when I first got him from the orphanage, so I held him A LOT and had lots of cuddle time with him on the plane rides home (don't recommend this). He is very sweet and loving, but I can't believe these two boys came from the same orphanage. They were literally across the hall from each other, but their caregivers must have been on opposite ends of the world. While Cole was MADE to be independent (feed, dress, sooth himself), this little man can do nothing and will make no attempt to do anything. If you put a cup or bottle in his hand, he just lets it go and sits and looks at you like you are the dumbest person in the world. It is quite funny. He also must have never heard the word "no" before (or "nyet") in his life. When you tell him no, he puts his hand over one of his eyes and it usually takes about 2-3 minutes and then you will hear the most pitiful sounding cry that has ever been made. (What he don't know is that I love it and think it is so cute-ssshhh-don't tell him that, though).

Eating-oh my, oh my! He wants to eat really well, but has no idea what to do with the food or how to chew it. He swallows whatever you put in his mouth down whole, like a pill. Believe it or not, we have not had any major choking incidents, but I don't know how we have not. His favorite foods are mac'n cheese and yogurt. He continues to have the gut issues and MAJOR issues with constipation, so only one yogurt a day and he savors every bite of it and then cries for about 10 minutes when it is gone. I have been giving him a 1/2 dose of miralax everyday and that is seeming to help quite a bit. I have taken him to the pediatrician and cardiologist, also. Our ped was not convinced the immunizations were correct, so we are just starting over and poor babies got three shots a piece on our first visit. Heartwise-he has what is called an aberrant subclavian artery, which is just a variation of the artery being in a different place than it should, and he is bradycardic (slow heart rate). The aberrant subclavian could be the source of his swallowing difficulties, but we have not had that checked yet. The cardio doc thinks that all of his minor problems (sluggishness, low heart rate, constipation, fatigue, etc.) are from a low thyroid. We had the blood drawn for that, but haven't heard back yet. Speaking of fatigue, this little guy requires many rest periods throughout the day, even though he sleeps about 10-12 hours a night. He just tuckers out so easily and will just fall over and go to sleep. (Still pretty cute)

Caden has his early intervention evaluation this coming Tuesday and I am anxious to get that started. He needs a lot of therapy and assistance on just catching up. I hope this will help him with his strength and endurance.

Overall, Caden is just like having a new baby. He is content, laughs a lot, likes to be held, draws attention everywhere we go, and is pretty healthy, all things considered. He has 6 teeth and will definitely bite you given the chance. He says "ma ma" and "bye-bye" and it is so stinking CUTE when he does. He waves bye bye, too. He cracks up when I try to get him to sign or show me where his nose or ears are. He thinks that I was put on this Earth for his entertainment.....and he may be right!

My husband asked me the other day if I loved these boys...and I sat for a minute and thought. I do love them, but not the same way I love my bio kids, yet. I still feel like we are babysitting someone else's children and that they are not quite mine. I don't know exactly how to explain it. My true momma love has not come into full bloom yet, but it is there and growing. I know that sounds awful, but some days I just want to bury myself under the covers and HOPE that these kids parents come and get them....and then I remember that I am their parent and well, I get out of the bed! I have read other blogs where people meet their children and instantly connect and have that mother/child bond and that amazes me. I know our day will come, but it isn't here just yet.



  1. I don't know if he likes the medicine or not, but Yummi Bears makes a fiber gummy bear for children. They make tons of different kids of vitamins. My 4 take the fruits and vegetable ones, the multi, Vit C, an the DHA for vision and healthy brain function. I buy them at the health food store or online.
    Glad you all are settling in, thanks for the updates.

  2. You do love them. It is just different. If another Mama came walking in and walked off with them... you would scratch her eyes out to get them back. That is love. It is love in action - love that is a choice. Love that is God-inspired. I see love written all over your post in the words you chose to use to describe them. My biggest adjustment is that we have a six year old toddler in the house. The need to keep a constant eye on him does feel like babysitting because it is such a shift from our lifestyle of only a few months ago. But you and I traveled the globe to get these kids who have disrupted our lives in so many ways but we would not trade them for the world even if it doesn't always feel good and if that isn't LOVE - I don't know what is!!

  3. I agree with Julia it is love and it is choice. Do not feel bad at all. It takes me a long time to feel a bond. You are doing an amazing job!! Hang in there..... soon you will feel like they have always been there. :)

  4. You absolutely ARE doing an amazing job- how many kids in the world DON'T have a parent co-ordinating their therapists and finding their quirks cute- "normal" kids from "normal" homes included! God bless you richly for your incredible care of two no-longer-orphans!

  5. Thank you for your honesty! I feel the same way about Liam. I love him, but not the way I love my bio kids. It will come! I believe it!

    Liam does look different than his picture! If you walk in the orphanage and turn left go up two flights of stairs and go in, he's there. We saw Lydiah the first time we went and never saw her again. Olga said she would get her picture and send it to Victoria.

    Still waiting for a court date! Thanks for writing on your blog about the boys!

  6. Since he loves yogurt but is constipated have you tried the "Activa" brand yogurt yet? My daughter is pretty regular, LOL, and I gave her some of that yogurt accidentally and let's just say, it cleaned her out for 2 days :) Maybe it would help to use with the Miralax? If he loves yogurt it wouldn't hurt to try. They are both so precious. Congratulations!

  7. Thanks for your comment on my blog, Stephanie! The boys are all wonderful! A couple of them are outgoing, a couple of them are shy, and they are definitely boys as evidenced by the way they love to play trucks in the dirt rather than play on the playground equipment. I seriously fell in love with each and every one of them!